Acts of the Spirit // Gentleness

Gentleness can often be misunderstood. Many think it’s about weakness or avoiding confrontation. But true gentleness is far more powerful. Gentleness is strength under control.

In her sermon on gentleness, Pastor Nicole teaches about this Christlike quality that doesn’t demand power but chooses to respond with humility and care — even when it is hard!

Gentleness in Action

In Acts 22, Paul demonstrates gentleness as strength in a powerful way. Paul had been falsely accused, beaten, and arrested, and he has ever reason to lash out. Instead, he shows restraint. Paul speaks to the angry crowd with respect, calling them “Brothers and esteemed fathers.” Paul doesn’t retaliate or argue. He uses humility to build a bridge. He chose calm words and sought reconciliation, even though he was the one who had been wrong.

This is gentleness in ACTion — choosing others’ well-being over their desire for revenge!

Gentleness is Selflessness

True gentleness is not only modeled by Paul but also through the selflessness of Jesus. It’s not always about avoiding tough conversation but addressing them with love and care. It is putting the needs of others about our own, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Jesus embodied this perfectly! He had every right to demand worship, to call angels to his rescue, to retaliate against those who wronged him. Yet, he never did! Instead, Jesus chose gentleness in every moment of his life– even during his death on the cross. His gentleness wasn’t just the absence of harshness but the presence of sacrificial love.

Refuge is a Gentle Place

At Refuge we try to mirror Jesus’ gentle, selfless, and sacrificial love for ALL PEOPLE. This means we honor and value everyone, we strive to stand with marginalized communities, and using gentleness to disarm hostility and build understanding.

Gentleness doesn’t avoid hard truths. It invites us to talk about injustice, inequality, and discrimination in ways that prioritize unity and healing.